Return the favor

Remember my friend Jessie? She live near my maams old house? Her maam is all the time beat her and call her bitch. Jessie want to run away but she is still stuck in that house.

Jessie is full time so depress because her situation is not good. Then one day she phone me. She tell me that she get so angry with her maam she want to spit in her maams coffee. She say it will make her feel so happy when her maam is drinking the coffee. I tell her Jessie you not do that if you are caught it will be bad. She say Sally it already so bad at least I can laugh when she is drinking my spit. But she is too scared. I know she will not do this. 

I dont know if you remember this. Jessies maam have a loro. A parrot. It can talk. And because the maam call Jessie bitch all the time the parrot call her bitch. Yesterday Jessie tell me she is teaching the parrot all bad word in tagalog. like putanginamo. It mean f you. She tell her maam it mean I love you. And puta ka. you are a bitch. She tell her maam it mean you are beautiful.

I dont think what Jessie is doing is good because she can get in so much trouble if her maam is finding out. But I think Jessie need to laugh that is why she do this thing. 

We have this thing in my home country. utang na loob. It mean you have to repay a person what you owe them. we use it when someone do something good for you then you have to return him something.I try to explain better.

Suppose someone do some favor for you. You cannot pay money for it. You have to repay person with another favor. If you dont do a favor back for the person then you are walang utang na loob. that mean ungrateful. You have to make a balancing of all the favor.

It is not like it is a law that you have to return the favor. But something inside your head or your heart tell you that you have to do it. Sometimes the favor is so big you can never return it. But you always have to try. and keep trying till you are satisfy. That is the way in my home country.

Jessie wants to give her maam spit because her maam is giving her shit. But instead she uses the parrot to return the favor to her maam.

10 comments:

Sandy Pastor said...

Maybe Jessie and the parrot should both run away together and join the circus. Jokes apart, I love your blog because you are great at making connections with the strangest things.

Haseeb Ahmed Shariff said...

Hi Sally,

I have read all your blogs and its interesting and I have enjoyed a lot and I would say you have lot of humour. where are you leaving now, I am shifting to Dubai in Feb / March 2014, if I get a chance, I would like to meet you & would like to hire person like you.

Thanks

Haseeb Ahmed Shariff said...

Hi Sally,

I have read all your blogs and have enjoyed it. You have good humour, keep it up.

Thanks,

Haseeb

Anonymous said...

I hope things get better for you and your friend. Stay safe!

Anonymous said...

so false :(

Anonymous said...

Poor, poor Sally

Calculatoare Second Hand said...

What's the difference between being grateful and being a good person, and not expecting anything else in return? Good deeds must never wait anything. They must be done in order for us to be humans, not animals.

Maybe I'm wrong, I don't know, but that's what I think :)

Nel Fabia said...

Utang na loob is different from revenge or retaliation. It is a positive act and NEVER a negative one. It is being grateful of the favor given and having the feeling of indebtedness regardless if the other person is expecting something in return or not.

Anonymous said...

Nel, that is what Sally says. She says "we use it when someone do something good for you then you have to return him something". I think she is just playing with the words "return the favor" when she says "Jessie wants to give her maam spit because her maam is giving her shit. But instead she uses the parrot to return the favor to her maam". Notice she does not say utaang na loob in that sentence.

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